Saturday, January 06, 2007

My baby's apartment searching......

What am I going to do? I know.....I need to be adult about this and support her in every way possible, but inside, I feel sad. Becca and her boyfriend Josh, (whom I love) went apartment hunting today... Like seriously apartment hunting and I am feeling very bittersweet about the whole thing. Anyone have any thoughts or advice for me on this cause I could really be using some right about now.
I know that is is very NORMAL for young adults to move in together and whether or not they actuay make it together in life, this is a way of their learning of life and I'm am going to support her & them 100%. I was NEVER given this chance as a young adult to venture out on my own too figure out what I was going to do with my life and I want her to be able to do just that! She is a VERY good girl and in college and working and has her goals very well in mind!!! I could not ask for more. Her boyfriend, Josh, is incredible! He is so polite, kind and caring and loves her too death! He too is in college, has a good job right now and finishing up his college education with a metal fabrication degree, and has very oriented goals for their future. Can it be possible that you really, actualy meet your life-long mate in college and it sticks? When they got home tonight and were showing me pictures and applications and such from different apartment rentals, it really hit me,,,,,,they are serious,.........and I am going to have to face this and support them, no matter what! She was so excited to show me the pics she took while they were looking about different apartments throughout their search today! And I was very happy to be a part of it!
She said, mom....mom... look at this kitchen....isn't it cool!!!!!!!!!!! This complex has a pool and spa....but, (she said) don't worry..... I'm coming home all the time to do laundry, FOR FREE, don't worry, you guys won't miss me! ooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh OK! Of course, I was happy with that! As long as I now she is not that far away, I'll have to get over it and I will be a very proud mama and support her no matter what!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



7 comments:

AM said...

Aw hugs, bittersweet yes, sad yes, but like all kids they must grow and explore the world. Still doesn't make it any easier does it. You are doing the right thing by supporting her though, that she will always have.

Shionge said...

Oh I'm sorry to hear that you are so 'torn' but it'll come sooner or later isn't it?

In our culture, our children don't move out to live with they boyfrenz till they are ready to get marry together. I know it is probably much earlier than us.

I would be 'torn' too but since they are sharing all these with you, it shows that they do respect you and will come by more often.

You are doing well pal!

kel said...

Has to be so hard. Good that it is close to you and she can come do laundry!

Heather/SHTEZQ said...

oh here i go crying again she is no baby girl doing cartwheels and playing her clarinet anyore is sh. We are so proud of them. i can not wait to continue to see what kind of woman she grows into. tell her we love hr and ar routing for whatever sh wants.

Michelle said...

Its good that you are supportive and involved. I didnt have that with my parents. They didnt know I was moving out until the week before I did. And because I was living with my boyfriend, they refused to associate with me. I lost a couple of years with them. I didnt get them nack unti the birth of my first child!

Debby said...

i moved out when i was 18, then got evicted for having a party, moved back in with my mom for a month, moved out got evicted for being loud, moved back in with my mom moved back out....theyll always be there.....i know its hard just thinking of Josh living on his own, heck its hard right now cause hes ready to get his license and cant take care of anything yet....we do our best and hope they learn....she sounds like a great kid i think youll both do good....

Debby said...

forgot to ask is this by the castle? looks like a place i used to live in a when Josh was just a baby